Are Russian women reserved?
Recently I face with an opinion of an American man about Russian women. According to it, they are reserved and cautious and it is useless to blame them for this. Life in Russia is difficult, men are all drunkards, and women have to survive somehow. Many Western men share this opinion. Is it true?
To begin with, contrary to wide-spread belief, Russia takes far from the first place in the world in using alcohol. It is just being the streets and society in drank state and ill-considered words spoken in it, has far less consequences in Russia, than in , for example, USA. That's why there is no need to hide and drink alone at home- alcoholics are all in full view. As for living standards, It is really lower in Russia than in the developed countries of Europe and USA, but not to such extent, that a question of survival was of importance.
The opinion about self-control and anxiety of Russian women is formed mostly at men who tried to communicate with them on different dating sites. Internet in Russia is not yet a widely used method of communication and contact. That's why this method of dating arouses some tension. Besides, not all Russian women has fluent English and it adds to their discomfort. Also, an "iron curtain" for many years makes its impact, Russian people have very rough idea of mentality, moral-ethics values, norms of communication with people from different countries. It concerns also Russian living abroad.
Many Russian women , who communicate with men through Internet, actually seem reserved and anxious. They write short standard phrases in their letters and profiles, they think long about their replies. But they do it not from self-control of their character, but because of lack of experience and practice in international communication. They are afraid to be wrong understood, to be seen not in the best light and by ignorance or carelessness to hurt men's feelings.
But in life Russian women, as well as men, are open, communicative and emotional. They can easily speak about their innermost feelings and problems that worry them to hardly known person, frankly speak about their wishes, likings and dissatisfaction. It is seen in the fact, that the profession of psychoanalytic is not demanded in Russia. It is demanded in those places, where it is used to hide and suppress people's true feelings.
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