How to measure compatibility
Having been working for many years in various marriage agencies, I have observed a typical situation. A man became acquainted with a woman through a dating site and traversed thousand kilometres to meet with her. However, from the first minutes of personal contact neither could hide their disappointment, and even irritation, understanding that nothing good would grow from their further contact, and that their relationship was doomed to failure.
Why does it happen? They liked each other in the photos; have been satisfied with the answers to questionnaires; have corresponded for some months. Is it not to be expected for a couple to feel at least some mutual sympathy when meeting for the first time? Everything was so perfect when they spoke on the phone and exchange messages. Unfortunately, it's not enough.
Have you ever noticed that different people communicate at different distances? During a conversation one person always moves too close to you while another person constantly "escapes" from you, and you "lose" him. If distances in a dialogue between two people differ too much, they fail to make contact. Maintaining the distance is neither a manner, nor a habit. It's connected to the person's vital energy and sexual needs. Incompatibility in personal distances has its effect on personal meeting, and especially on marriage, but you will not be warned about it from photos and letters.
Another important characteristic which also cannot be traced on photos and questionnaires is tempo-rhythm. I'm sure you have run into people who irritated you with their fussiness or, on the contrary seemed too slow and numb. Actually they are neither good nor bad. Each person lives in individual, natural and comfortable for him or her rhythm which can be detected in both the conversation, in movements, and in sex. If the tempo-rhythms of two people noticeably differ, they won't feel anything except mutual irritation for each other.
One could be shown many examples on discrepancy between various innate personal characteristics. However, not only the incompatibility of physiology has the capacity to pull apart a man away from a woman. The reason for disappointments is often financial interest in communication (scam) and materialism of some ladies. Unfortunately, there are a lot of them, and they use any opportunity to get at the man's wallet, including acquaintances through dating sites. If the woman is clever enough, she doesn't begin to ask for money immediately, but at a face to face meeting you will immediately feel her materialistic nature.
Still, the main reason for disappointments is to be found in ourselves. Trying to find the dream of our life, at times we dismiss desirable for satisfactory. The less concrete and trustworthy information we have about the person, the more our imagination is capable of creating an especially attractive image. Having seen a photo produced by professionals, and having read the questionnaire and a profile where everyone writes only good things about themselves, a man projects ideal qualities onto the actual woman. Having discovered the discrepancy between the two images at a private meeting, a man (or a woman) feels deceived.
Where is the solution for this behaviour? How to protect yourself from mistakes and disappointments with distant acquaintances? The only real decision is to undertake psychological testing for everyone concerned. There are two kinds of psychological tests. On the one hand there is a set of questions on many various themes. Here, all questions are stated directly and are not evaluated through any mathematical processing.
Therefore, the information from the questionnaire cannot be considered authentic because of natural and not always realized desire of the respondent to show him / her self from their best side, or because of a deliberate fixing of answers. The only way to succeed with this type of questions is to ask each one many times, but it becomes easy to figure the questionnaire out.
The second type of a test assesses the necessary qualities and factors by asking indirect and projective questions which are interconnected among themselves. Answers are processed and corrected by a complex mathematical device based on an extensive statistical database. It becomes practically impossible "to deceive" a professionally made test such as this. Ours is the first type of such a test that can estimate the important physiological characteristics, for example, tempo-rhythm or a personal distance.
The Personality Interpreter, used on our site, was developed some time ago in Russia, its exclusive development does not have analogues in the world. The test calculates 34 parameters, reflecting the most various human qualities - from business to the intimate. It will help you to learn yourself better and will give you full and adequate representation about to whom you have paid attention, will chooses the woman most suitable for you from an extensive database, and will predict your future relationship, giving recommendation s how to win the sympathy of the woman you like.
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